Fall is here. Breathe in deeply, savoring the details: brisk autumn temperatures, falling leaves, that cleanness in the air (OK, perhaps not if you’re in NYC). Your wardrobe starts to change to reflect the weather, leaving you pondering:

“I love my pilot jacket from the Gap. But I wear it every day and I can tell that the cute barista at the coffee shop is getting bored with my look. How do I mix it up? How do I get her to notice me?”

While I could suggest a larger tip or perhaps charm school classes, I’m thinking that accessorizing with men’s scarves is the way to go. There are more styles out there than facial hardware worn by those sexy baristas, and choosing the right one for you is a mixture of the weather, the shirt you’re wearing, and how far you’re willing to go for style.

For instance, feel free to go with a bulky men’s scarf, but be prepared for a little neck sweating, and maybe a lot of coffee dribbling down your lip when you ask that Starbucks barista out this Friday night (here’s a hint: don’t invite her for coffee). But this is the kind of scarf that best complements a jacket/shirt of a dramatically different material. Don’t go knit scarf with knit shirt, for instance.

You could also go the thin route, like this black satin men’s scarf. But there’s always the danger of getting it caught in the blender. That would not be pretty, and significantly diminishes the odds of getting Date #2.

Personally, I like this little grey number, which kind of reminds me of a pretzel. Makes me somewhat hungry. This will greatly increase the odds that the barista will want to dine with you, during which you can wear another men’s scarf, lest she be inclined to nosh on this one.

Most importantly,  remember that wearing a men’s scarf – no matter the weather – is just as much a style statement as your shoes, jacket, or those $200 jeans you’re sporting. Women are frequently suckers for this attention to detail, and when you go this route, remember one thing: own it.