You  just received an invitation in the mail for the Jones’ wedding. While admiring the beautifully crafted cardstock, you almost forget to scan the details of the Reception To Follow: Reception, 8 o-clock at The Villa; Black Tie.

You panic a little. You’ve never been to a Black Tie wedding before. What the heck am I going to wear? What’s a Black Tie wedding anyway? Okay, breathe. First things first: You can kiss the idea of that little red hot mini you wore to Michelle’s 30^th goodbye and read on.

Having attended five weddings in the past 10 months and spending hours of trying to find the perfect dress, I know how complicated dress shopping for a wedding can be. Follow this style guide for how-to ideas on what to wear to a Black Tie wedding — and stop thinking about that red mini for goodness’ sake!

The Standard Dress Code for Black Tie Weddings

The Black Tie wedding is the most formal of all weddings. This type of wedding event calls for Hollywood red carpet glam, “ think The Oscars. In fact, it’s all about dressing up to the nines. Elegance, sophistication and a hint of sex appeal define this fancy affair.

Long Floor Length Gowns

Floor length gowns are most appropriate for a formal Black Tie wedding. Go for a long beautiful silk gown like this Adrianna Papell Strapless Ombr© Silk Gown. Take note of the jeweled detailing around the midsection of the dress. Sparkling embellishments like rhinestones, beading, and gemstones are all details that are essential to a fancy dress .

Another long dress option to consider is one with intricate detailing like this Tadashi One Shoulder Rosette Chiffon Gown. The one shoulder dress features a delicate floral ruffle that wraps the shoulder giving off a sensual, romantic appeal. Ruching, braiding, and ruffles are also elements to be looking for when finding your dress.

Dressy Cocktail Dress

Weddings these days are becoming more contemporary allowing guests more freedom and less rules when it comes to wedding attire.  With that said, if you happen to have a shorter cocktail dress you feel may be appropriate for an occasion such as this, make sure your dress has at least one — if not all — of the elements featured in this Maggy London Lace Bodice Mesh Dress.  Notice the fabric of the dress.  Sheer mesh instantly creates elegance while the intricately detailed lace bodice adds just the right amount of drama.  Try staying away from strapless, body hugging dresses.  If you opt for a traditional black dress, make sure you add an interesting accessory like a colorful, ornate hair flower.  Remember, glitz and glam is not optional at a Black Tie wedding, so vamp up your cocktail dress with sparkle, shine, and everything fine!

Remember this: When in doubt – go all out to a Black Tie wedding.